Someone has convinced you that you are less than amazing. That you are not worthy or lesser value than they are. I may not know you, but I know that you are a human and every single human on this earth has a life. And for that reason alone they are worthy and their life is just as valuable as the next. Some times we encounter humans who devalue us. Humans who cause us pain whether physically or mentally. Humans that nearly convince us that we are the reason it continues to storm down on us. The reason we face such darkness.
But I am here to tell you it is not true. You are not the cause to all the darkness in your life. All the challenges or the pain you may face. It is not your fault. It is not your fault that someone abused you, whether mentally or physically. Both are wrong. Both cause detrimental pain and trauma to a human. The damage it can do on someone mentally, which causes physical deteriorate. No one deserves to go through that. You do not deserve to go through that. The brainwashing. The lying. The convincing you that you are the problem and that you need help. The hitting or punching you. The slamming you against the wall or throwing a bottle at your head. The control or the lack of control you have of your life, of yourself. You do not deserve that. It is not your fault. But you should not stay.
It is so difficult for someone to escape a situation such as I described above. But at the end of the day we have choices and they are hard. It is one of the hardest things to do, to walk away from your abuser. To walk away from the physical pain and mental confusion and trauma that is inflicted in these situations. There may be good moments, but the bad outweigh the good. You already feel so alone. But I hear you. It is okay. Your feelings are valid and it is okay that you are scared. The way you are feeling right now is temporary and eventually you will manage those feelings and come out stronger than ever. Happier than ever, healthier than ever and more successful than ever.
I may not have experienced domestic abuse, but I am a childhood abuse survivor. And there are many women who are experiencing the same thing you are, and it is so unfortunate because you ladies are beautiful. You ladies are stronger than you know and I hope truly that you can find the strength to get out. To get away. It is more challenging to ask for help. It is scary. The stigma it carries is horrible and it makes us even less willing to seek support, but it is out there. It is out there to guide you through this fight and so am I. I am sending all my love and strength to all the women out there in a situation that is negative, unhealthy or unkind. Loving yourself is another one of the hardest things we can do in life, but it is the most important task as human beings.
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